Solace House is offering a short term, Covid Loss Group this December for adults who have experienced the death of someone important due to coronavirus.

Solace House offers help during the holidays for those who have lost a family member

 Solace House counselors believe everyone has the capacity to heal.

The Holidays are Coming, Ready or Not  

By Sue Loudon 

 People who have lost a family member to Covid-19 or another illness or accident this year should know  there is help for them and their families as they face the holidays without a loved one. 

 Solace House provides grief support for those aged 3 years old to adult. They provide group support  for children, teenagers and adults to help each group know they are not alone. Couples, families or  individuals may get counseling if they prefer. 

 Solace House counselors believe everyone has the capacity to heal. They know strong reactions of grief  and anger are normal even if the death was anticipated. Being in a group of people that has had a  similar experience lets people know they are not alone. The intensity and duration of each individual’s grief is unique. They may expect good days and bad days. People need help understanding their own  behavior and spiritual response to the loss. 

 Because of Covid-19, twice as many people are seeking help from Solace House, the Center for Grief  and Healing which is another service of Hospice House, located at 12000 Wornall Rd., the place for end of life care. Solice House is located at 8012 State Line Road on the second floor. 

 The Counselors at Solice House share Nine Guidelines for those who grieve, especially during the  holidays. 

  1. Plan ahead. Know that this will be a painful time. Let your family know how they can help you and how  you can help them. What most concerns you? Remember you do have choices. What do you consider a  “must do” and what can wait until next year.  
  2. Express yourself. Tears may be very near the surface. Feel free to cry. Know that your emotions may  fluctuate unpredictably. 
  3. Take charge. You can avoid more feelings of helplessness and lack of control. Maintain your routine  of eating, sleeping and exercise as much as possible. Don’t try to do everything the way “we’ve always  done it,” if it doesn’t feel right. However, don’t make major, life changing decisions at this time.  
  4.  Take help from others. Talk to your priest, minister or rabbi. Professional counselors can also be  helpful at this time. Remember grief takes energy, so get more rest. Accept help from friends and  family. Bereavement support groups may be helpful.  
  5.  Be gentle with yourself. Treat yourself as you would a good friend who was grieving . 
  6.  Remember to Remember. Sometimes people find comfort in using or wearing something that  belonged to the loved one who has died. Especially, remembering him or her in prayer.
  7. Search out and count your Blessings. Enjoy the joy children bring to the holidays. Stay in the present  as much as possible. This is the secret to getting through the holidays! Enjoy today!  
  8. Do something for Others. Grieving people become centered on themselves, which is normal , but the  more you can focus on the needs of others the better you will feel. 
  9. Encounter Your Faith. Some people become angry toward God. Instead use this as a time to grow in  your spiritual journey.  

To reach out to Solace House, call 913-341-0318 or  email The services are free but donations are accepted.


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